APPLES AND ORANGES: Maggie's mind blows

Whoah, Barry this is some pretty heavy stuff we are wandering into here. Are you sure you want to go there? OK, here goes.

OK, so homosexuality is not an incapacity to have sex with women, but the combination of the presence of desire for men and the absence of desire for women. Further, homosexuality is on a continuum, and the continuum runs not only between individuals, but inside the same person---i.e. the same person can be gay at one point in your life, bisexual at another, and straight at another time?

The only thing you insist on is choice is never involved, because Eros is a demanding god who offers us none?

You write: "I am glad you acknowledge that we do not choose our sexual desires and they are fluid and don't represent a hard fact about us. It was a point I made in my previous post, that sex desires are indeed on a continuum and we might find ourselves at different points on the spectrum at different times of our lives--though never by choice, just an existential fact."

There is this big step you are glossing over: Between desire and identity, it seems to me, there is a space to be travelled. If we don't choose our sexual desires, do we choose our identities or are those too dictated to us by desire?


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