ARE MIXED MARRIAGES IMMORAL? Barry Maguire

Apples and oranges, Maggie! In this continuing debate the term gay is being used much too broadly resulting in lots of misconceptions and no little confusion.

You quoted women who said they are married to gay men and nonetheless have great sex lives. If they were really married to gay men, they would not be having great sex lives. They would not be having sex at all.

These women don't have gay husbands, they have bisexual husbands. The term gay (or homosexual) should only be used to indicate someone who is exclusively homosexual. (Oh, yes, there are such people!)

Bisexuality in men covers a wide spectrum, some liking men but preferring women or vice versa. Awoman who knowingly marries a bisexual who would really rather that she were a man is placing herself in a most vulnerable and perhaps emotionally ruinous situation. More often than not, misery and heartache is the name of this game.

And, yes, for a truly gay man to misrepresent himself to a woman to satisfy some personal agenda (escape religiously inspired guilt,please parents, fit into a specific social circle, etc.) is indeed immoral. I know a gay man who did just that. When at last it became evident that he could not continue the masquerade, the woman was devastated by the deception as she had invested considerable emotional commitment to what she believed was a mutually rewarding relationship.His was a totally unethical, thoughtless, selfish and ultimately cruel behavior. In a word, immoral. The irony is, he really loved the woman. He just had no desire whatever to have sex with her. Ever! He was GAY!

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