DO GAYS REALLY WANT MARRIAGE?: From the Washington Blade

...So it came as an unpleasant shock to many in her legions of gay fans when Bette Midler, asked by Larry King this week her views on gay marriage, didn't offer up a politically correct answer about equal rights long overdue.

Instead, Bathhouse Betty thought about the flesh-and-blood gay guys she knows and loves, and questioned whether marriage was such a good idea.

"Many of the homosexual men that I know--you know, they like to move around," said Midler. "They like to have--you know, they're--that's part of it. That's part of the fun of being a gay man. I'm really wondering how--what that commitment is going to be about. Does that mean they're not going to cheat, they're only going to be with one?" ...

Some of the attacks on "gay marriage" have been over-the-top alarmist, like suggesting it could lead to the end of civilization. Others have been heterosexist, as if there were something innately superior about the "complementarity" of heterosexual love between people of opposite genders.

Superior? No. But different? Maybe. ...

For many gay couples, especially the men, long-term relationships aren't necessarily exclusive sexually. In fact, as Bette put it so--you know--eloquently, many of us have found that's part of the fun of being gay. We write our own rules.

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