ADULT CHILDREN RAISED BY SAME-SEX COUPLES: Trey replies to Maggie Gallagher

As Lucia [at] Alas, a Blog has alerted me in an earlier comment, Maggie Gallagher responded to Andrew Sullivan as to 'why' she posted the story of one woman who had a not-so-good experience being raised by lesbian mothers. Her response (in part):

"But hers is a viewpoint I have NEVER seen represented in print. Not once. She wanted a voice. I gave it to her.

I am sure not every child raised by same-sex parents feels this way. I am sure she is not the only one either."

As Lucia questioned, out of the decade or more about gay adoption, parenting, and marriage, Ms. Gallagher has NEVER seen a story like this represented in print? Out of the (I assume) thousands of words she has written and read on the topic, she has NEVER seen such a story?

So, a couple questions I would pose to Ms. Gallagher (I don't expect an answer. I am just a small voice in a huge conversation.. just rhetorically):

Isn't that telling? There are entire organizations set up and books written by children of gay parents lauding and praising and supporting their parents. And she has NEVER heard one story in print from a child who had a miserable life with gay parents?

The thing is, I too believe there are many other children with similar stories to the one she 'gave a voice'. I have heard a couple. But for the couple, I've heard hundreds more with a different, very different, view. Why does she not find it telling that given the decade of discussion she only found one story, yet THOUSANDS of other children have told opposite stories?

That given that the research so far is inconclusive if not positive,

what is her motive for 'giving a voice' to this one woman? What purpose was she supposed to be serving?

If it is to argue that gay parenting is harmful, she has presented an extremely poor, in fact downright laughable, argument. The research suggests (does not prove) that children do as well (or slightly better) with 2 gay parents as they do with 2 straight parents (at worst, it is inconclusive). Thousands of children have set up organizations and written books and essays praising their childhoods being raised by gay parents, yet she... on the forefront of the argument... has found no more than ONE opposite story.

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