BRAVE NEW FAMILIES: Eve

Re the post below.

For my part, I share Tom's concern about the parents' romantic partners (if any)--there's no reason to think fathers' boyfriends would be exempt from the problems mothers' boyfriends often cause for kids. And I would want to ask what their decision not to marry means for their child's future and their future as parents together. Is the idea that they want to hold open the possibility of setting up house with a sexual partner in the future? Because if so, they're intentionally bringing a child into a situation whose stability they're willing to jeopardize for the sake of their romantic relationships, which... sounds like something I have a big problem with when heterosexuals do it, you know?

As far as whether there's "something about a romantic relationship between the parents that's important," well, the world is big and woolly, and there are more kinds of love than sexual love. This couple may well end up loving one another very deeply, even if they are never sexually attracted. But if they were to marry and raise their child they would forge a strong bond to one another that, as one FS commenter put it, can outlast "romantic love, which waxes and wanes."

Possibly-related MD.com posts here, here, here.
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