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Saturday, September 09, 2006
DIVORCE ON PBS: Press release
...In Kids & Divorce: For Better or Worse, airing Thursday, September 14, at 10p.m. on PBS (check local listings), host Dave Iverson explores the highly charged issue of divorce and asks what parents and the legal system can do to minimize the negative impact on children. Through a mix of in-studio discussion and documentary reports, this one-hour television special takes a closer look at innovative approaches to divorce education, debates whether or not current custody laws should be changed, and offers sound advice from nationallyrecognized experts who demonstrate how families can communicate, co-parent, and heal. "While the aftermath of a failed marriage generates strong emotions for the parents, what does divorce really mean for children?" asks host Iverson. "A recent long-term study at the University of Virginia found that while the majority of children do well following a divorce, about one quarter experience significant emotional or behavioral problems. That's about double the rate for kids whose parents don't divorce. What can we do to improve these odds?" In Kids & Divorce: For Better or Worse, an esteemed panel of experts from the fields of family counseling, law, and psychology debates the most critical question facing divorcing parents: What's best for kids? These experts include: Dr. Peter Jaffe, academic director for the Centre for Research on Violence Against Women and Children at the University of Western Ontario; Dr. Isolina Ricci, author of Mom's House, Dad's House: The complete Guide for Parents Who Are Separated, Divorced or Remarried; Ernest Sanchez, senior mediator for the Los Angeles Superior Court; Andrew Schepard, director of the Center for Children, Families, and the Law at Hofstra University; Marjorie Slabach, family court commissioner in San Francisco, California; and Dr. Richard Warshak, psychologist and author of Divorce Poison. more Friday, September 08, 2006
Brad Pitt on When He Will Tie the Knot
"Angie and I will consider tying the knot when everyone else in the country who wants to be married is legally able," the 42-year-old actor reveals in Esquire magazine's October issue, on newsstands Sept. 19."
Biological Clock Ticking?
Quick, you're a thirtysomething unmarried woman who wants to start a family: what should you do?
Men Against Divorce Courts
More Stephen Baskerville on divorce as a violation of men's rights in of all places Movie Guide
Are Men Smarter than Women?
A new study says yes, on average, calling the gender IQ difference "not large" but "real and non-trivial." Thursday, September 07, 2006
It's Picasso's World
We all just live in it. An unusual paper from the National Bureau of Economic Research: "This paper surveys 31 new genres of art that were invented during the twentieth century, chronologically from collage, papier colle, and readymades through installation, performance, and earthworks. This unprecedented proliferation in art forms was a direct consequence of the dominant role of conceptual innovation in the century's art, as a series of young iconoclasts deliberately broke the conventions and rules of existing artistic practice in the process of devising new ways to express their ideas and emotions. . .The proliferation of genres has fragmented the advanced art world. A century ago, a great painter could influence nearly all advanced artists, but today it is virtually impossible for any one artist to influence practitioners of genres as diverse as painting, video, and installation. This survey also underscores the central role of Picasso in the advanced art of the past century, as he not only created the first, and one of the most important, of the new genres, but in doing so he also provided a new model of artistic behavior that became an inspiration for many other young conceptual artists."
New Study Brings Marriage Movement to Britain?
From a September 7 story in the Telegraph, "Marriage is best for bringing up children, says Tory study:" "Marriage is the best environment to raise children and offers the greatest chance of a stable upbringing, an independent study commissioned by the Tories reveals today. Wednesday, September 06, 2006
What is the Purpose of Marriage?
In the the Jerusalem Post, from the chief rabbi of Efrat in a discussion: What is the Purpose of Marriage? (Thanks Rachel for the link): "However, despite what I have just recorded, there is a fascinating disagreement among our Sages (12th-16th centuries) as to whether or not there is in fact a commandment to get married. R. Asheri, (known as the Rosh, 1250-1327), insists that there is no such commandment; the only real command is to have children ("Be fruitful and multiply," Gen 1:28), and the natural - and legal - preparation for procreation is marriage. If one does not wish to - or is biologically incapable of - having children, marriage is not at all necessary." I am shamefully ignorant about Judaism. But every time I read something about it, I'm struck by the great truth that Catholic thinking is a survival of Temple Judaism. In this case, see the discussion of the difference between betrothal, or the giving of marriage, and the "completion" of the marriage through sexual relations, a distinction which marks much medieval Catholic thought.
Who Says Sex Ed Doesn't Work?
Via The Smoking Gun via The Drudge Report, a man who became so enamored with a young woman's obituary photo, he plotted to rob her grave to have sex with her corpse: "In a police interview, Radke said that he and the Grunke brothers stopped at a Wal-Mart to buy condoms on their way to the cemetery.. ."
Curse of the 9/11 Widows?
Via the Drudge Report: The curse of 9/11 widows: 'Wrecked marriages. Shattered families. Adultery and sheer greed'...If true, this looks a lot like the social science literature on lottery winners.
More Response to Judge Wilkinson
From Daniel Lowenstein, a law professor at UCLA, via a private informal listserve (with his permission of course): "But when the proposal is to eliminate mankind's most ancient and fundamental institution and replace it with something different, I see no objection to imposing a difficult-to-surmount, super-majority requirement on those who would effectuate such a change. The change is not only fundamental but very difficult to reverse. And the impairment of marriage from one or several states adopting the change affects everyone. It would not have and did not occur to anyone that such a provision in the Constitution was necessary until the judiciary started going haywire. But now that they have, the issue seems to me to have all the characteristics that make a constitutional amendment appropriate."
Beyond Babies or Islamic Oppression?
The NYT piece on Zoroastrianism sparks a vigorous blogosphere debate, via Amy Welborn.
SSM Debate: Response to J. Harvey Wilkinson III
A New York lawyer (who prefer anonymity) writes of Judge Wilkinson's WaPo op ed: "It is a fair point with respect to a federal constitutional amendment that, because such amendments are so hard to enact, they are also hard to repeal, such that a current strong majority might wish to consider the possibility that future generations ought not have their hands tied. But it's a silly point with respect to state constitutional amendments, both because state constitutions are easier to amend and because they are often stuffed full of extraordinarily humdrum and specific provisions. New York's, for example, has very lengthy provisions about permissible ski trails in the Adirondacks, the extent to which the state government can guarantee debt issued by the Port Authority, and similarly transient and non-exalted subjects. Of course, the federal constitution has a lot of small-change stuff as well. Judge Wilkinson should either be willing to regret the adoption of many of the current provisions of the federal constitution (which would undercut his historical argument) or be prepared to explain why, e.g., the no-third-term-for-Presidents amendment and the votes-for-18-through-20-year-old amendment are of a more permanent, exalted, and general nature than the definition of marriage. The no-third-term provision may be an interesting analogy (although it lacks the federalism angle), because a well-established norm had developed that the country had never bothered to constitutionalize because no one had seriously challenged it. Once a challenge arose (in the form of FDR), constitutionalization followed.
Beyond Babies: Zoroastrians Dwindle
Another NYT story suggesting the cultural effects of generativity, in this case on Zoroastrians. I know very little about this ancient religion of Persia, except that Nietzche appropriated its chief prophet for "Also Sprach Zarathustra," (and that in India they are called "Parsis") but somehow I have to believe there is more to the faith than that, as this article describes it, they believe one should "do good." I wish the reporter had been more curious about their theology, cosmology etc, esp. if it's a faith now doomed to death by its members failure to reproduce. Like Judaism and Hinduism (other surviving religions of equal antiquity), Zoroastrianism is essentially tribal in nature: a people were defined by their faith, and vice versa. Credal religions (such as Christianity and Islam)by contrast have two methods of reproduction: generativity and conversion. Anyway back to the Zoroastrians fate, after surviving 3000 years, in the modern world: Zoroastrians Keep the Faith, and Keep Dwindling
New Study: Women Bored by Sexy Looks
A new study reveals that, unlike say (male) monkeys, women prefer to look at photos of females who are "wholesome" rather than "sexy." But the males who run the fashion indsutry don't apparently have a clue: "For female magazine readers, sex doesn’t sell so much as it -- bores.
U.K. Christian Arrested for Distributing Bible Quotes
From a Sept. 6, U.K. Daily Mail story: "South Wales police admitted evangelical Christian Stephen Green was then charged purely because his pamphlets contained anti-gay quotations from the Bible. . .A spokesman for the police said the campaigner had not behaved in a violent or aggressive manner, but that officers arrested him because 'the leaflet contained Biblical quotes about homosexuality'. . .
HELPING KIDS HANDLE DIVORCE, GRIEF TAKES TIME: From Catholic Digest
[via Child of Divorce/Child of God ---Eve] ...Children grieve about divorce differently than their parents do. First, for children there is no finality. The marriage may be over for the adults, but the child-parent relationship still exists. Second, since children are still maturing, the various stages of their development bring new grief experiences relating to the divorce. While the grief of adults has a beginning, middle, and end, the grief of children has a series of beginnings, middles and ends. ... Don't stifle or deny youthful sorrow by saying: "I know how you feel" or "you should be stronger than this." Instead, encourage children to express their feelings. Tell them: "I'm sure this is very difficult for you"; "I wish I could take the pain away"; or simply "What can I do to help?" ... Show them how to take responsibility for negative feelings. Reinforce positive attitudes. Do not let them off the hook for their need to improve their situation. Expect them to do their best and show an optimistic attitude. ... Though marriages end, children have relationships with both parents. Even if you have reason to believe the other parent will let your children down, don’t interfere with their relationship. Children have to learn skills for handling people with shortcomings. This experience will help them learn to put forgiveness into practice. ... We cannot hurry young people through the grieving process. They must move through it at their own pace. This could be much slower than we would like or expect, because their grief is intertwined with their ongoing personal development. If your children refuse to talk about the separation or the divorce, honor their wishes. They may be defending themselves against emotions that seem overwhelming. They may also be searching for a way to let these feelings out while protecting themselves at the same time. more
UK SISTERS SUE FOR PARTNERSHIP RIGHTS: From the Telegraph
Two sisters in their eighties, who face a hefty bill for inheritance tax when the first of them dies, will accuse the Government of discriminating against heterosexuals when their challenge comes before the European Court of Human Rights this month. The test case is the first of its kind since the law was changed to allow gay and lesbian partners the same inheritance rights as married couples. ... They have lived together all their lives and made wills in favour of each other. Their house, which cost £7,000 to build in 1965, is valued at £875,000. But the sisters fear it will have to be sold when one of them dies in order to pay inheritance tax estimated at £236,000. Property left by one spouse to the other or inherited by a civil partner is exempt from the tax. However, close relatives, such as siblings and descendants, are not eligible to register as civil partners. Joyce Burden said she thought people like her were deliberately excluded from the recent Civil Partnership Act because there were so many homosexuals in Parliament. "I don't have the status of a lesbian," she said. "This is an insult to single people who have looked after elderly parents. I don't call that justice." She and her sister had been trying for 31 years to get the law changed. She hoped that a victory at the court would help others in their position. ... Emma Stradling, the sisters' lawyer, said they had spent their lives in a stable, committed, supportive and loving relationship with each other. The Government's position was that the relationship between siblings was different from that of couples. "Couples enjoy a relationship of choice. Siblings however, enjoy a relationship of consanguinity. Further, the relationship between siblings is for ever, whereas couples may part." In the Government's view, she said, a couple made a financial commitment by making a personal commitment to each other. This was not the case with siblings. more Tuesday, September 05, 2006
Federal Judge Opines Against Constitutionalizing Marriage
A surefire way to get into WaPo! (And I wonder if this means he doesn't expect to rule on a case any time soon. . .) But a thoughtful op ed by J. Harvey Wilkinson III, on the Fourth Circuit Court of Appeals, against constitutionalizing gay marriage: ". . .To constitutionalize matters of family law is to break with state traditions. The major changes in family law in the 19th and 20th centuries, such as the recognition of married women's property rights and the liberalization of divorce, occurred in most states at the statutory level. Even the infamous bans on interracial marriage were adopted nonconstitutionally by 35 states, and by constitutional amendment in only six.
The 29 Year Old Virgin and her Pimps
Dawn Eden in the New York Daily News on Jane Magazine's latest campaign: to deflower one of its editors: Women's glossies traditionally aim to be a reader's best friend, but that's not enough for Jane magazine. With its campaign to find the "first one" for a woman it labels "The 29-Year-Old Virgin," Jane goes one step further: It wants to be a reader's best pimp. Monday, September 04, 2006
Beyond Gay Marriage Discussion Continues
Walter Dynes sent me this post from his blog. One way of interpreting the Beyond Marriage statement, and the ensuing discussion, is that the gay left, having agreed to keep quiet in order to further SSM, now recognizes that SSM will be a very long battle and is unwilling to stay in the closet about what it believes for the duration: "Same-sex marriage: the atmosphere changes
Beyond Babies in the New York Times
Several recent stories on the impact of depopulation in the New York: Times: "European Union's Plunging Birthrates" "In Greying Japan, Lower Shelves and Wider Aisles" "A Younger India is Flexing its Industrial Brawn" Sunday, September 03, 2006
More Stupid Monkey Tricks
A new study shows that "Monkeys Will Pay to Look At Porn". . .and celebrities: "In the new work, researchers Robert Deaner, Amit Khera and Michael Platt, all of Duke University Medical Center, tested this hypothesis by measuring how much fruit juice monkeys would accept or forgo to see photographs of familiar monkeys, permitting the researchers to compare monkeys' valuation of different types of social information. Male monkeys "paid" in juice to view female hindquarters or high-ranking monkeys' faces, but required "overpayment" to view low-ranking monkeys' faces. . ."
Beyond Babies: Gary Becker in the WSJ
Gary Becker's take on "Missing Children: without mass immigration, low birthrates doom society." |
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